Why I Just HAD to Write the Perimenopause Manual
I was 41 when I had my second child after suffering from five miscarriages. During that time, I had also been made redundant from my accountancy job and lost my mother in law to brain cancer. I wasn’t in a good place mentally and felt that my life was ‘on hold’. After my second child was born, I woke up one day and decided I was going to change my career and pursue my passion in health and fitness. My life was not on hold anymore!
Two years later, aged 43, I realised that my body felt differently than it had after my first baby. I was irritable, not losing the weight, lacking in energy and having sleep problems. By now I had retrained into the health and fitness industry and gained my personal training qualification. We didn’t learn about hormones specific to women. We didn’t learn about symptoms like mood swings, brain fog, irritability, forgetfulness, trouble sleeping, water retention, PMS, weight gain, loss of libido, decreased sense of wellbeing, depression, headaches. I turned to a friend who is a nutritional therapist and explained some of my symptoms. She was determined to find out what was going on.
One day she said, “I think it might be perimenopause”. I started doing my own research and I was shocked. Why did I not know about this? I remember at school we were separated from the boys and taken off into a room where we talked about periods and tampons and sanitary towels and given a little leaflet to take away and read. Why isn’t there a little manual given to us all at a certain age to explain what happens when our periods end and not just begin? Why are there ante natal classes for giving birth but nothing for perimenopause to prepare you? I mean, considering it’s a life changing process we are going into it totally unprepared.
So, in January 2020, I sent out a survey asking women (mainly in their 40’s) how they currently felt about themselves and these are just some of the responses:
“I have never felt so alone”
“Overwhelmed, unprepared and unsupported”
“Not living my best life right now and constantly trying to find the old me”
I had 120 response to this survey, and only 7 ladies responded with anything positive. This totally saddens and shocks me. What it boils down to is this:
- knowing what you can control and what you can’t control,
- accepting that you cannot go back and start looking forwards
- Realising that we don’t have to ‘put up with it’
Be excited, put yourself first, be informed and start taking care of you!
I felt compelled to put together a “manual” to end any confusion and give you the facts:
- Why this is happening,
- Why we get these symptoms,
- What we can do about it,
- Who can help
- Where we can find like-minded women to talk to.
So, here it is. Your own Perimenopause Manual to start your journey into Rediscovering You. This is for all those women out there who want to live their best lives!