Do you consciously design relationships that work & re-design relationships that are not working?
Why do we accept relationships that are not working? Both at work & home? If something is not working in a technical design… what do you do? You re-design it until there is a working or functioning design. So why does it not occur to us to do this with relationships? When I explain to people that you can design relationships that work for both (or all parties) often people are shocked most say… it would never occur to them! What if we could ‘normalise’ talking about our relationships, in a way that empowers the people in the relationship to get more out of it, surely that would be a good thing? Taking time to work out how you can get more out of a relationship is a way of investing in the relationship. To draw a line in the sand & say let’s stop & figure out how we can work better together! There are simple ways to do this that bring a lot of value to both parties. You can do this with ANYONE with who you have a relationship. If the relationship is important enough to you then it is worth it from time to time, or at a point when you realise something is not working to ask to re-design your relationship. Read my full article for Brainz magazine to get my top tips & how to start the conversation!